“Auuuuuuugggggg!!!!” Can be a powerful tool. Part of the damage that grief, loss, and especially anger is allowed to do, is because we have bottled it up. We don’t want others to see us lose our composure, so we resort to short periods of leakage. We seep our way through the grieving process because people are around to be supportive and we don’t want them to see how deeply we are grieving. We try to protect ourselves from a negative reputation or protect them from witnessing the depth of our despair. How backwards is that? The very people who are there to hold us up end up being a hindrance to the grieving process. Tears moisten our lashes while we blink furiously and turn our faces away. Anger builds pressure in our chests and we release tiny spurts of it as we snap at the people we love the most.
It’s time to go nuclear.
Emotive Educational Activity #4 Go nuclear!
Speak: This one is going to be fun. No words required. Just fill your lungs with air and scream.
Write: Throw your pencil down.
Action: This works best if you have a place far away from others. Drive into the country. Bring a trusted friend if you need to. If you can’t get out to open empty fields, find a big fluffy pillow. Fill your lungs with air and SCREAM! Scream loud and long. Scream high and low. Dig that scream up from your toes and LET IT GO! Scream until the ridiculousness of it all breaks through, then let yourself laugh and scream some more.
Now go pick up that pencil.
Write: How did the scream make you feel? Did some pressure come off your chest? Did you feel silly? Will you do it again?
Remember the exercise you were supposed to think about a few weeks ago? Put it in place. Start walking, running, playing tennis, Tai Chi, whatever your activity was, it is time to put the plan into literal motion. Find time today to start exercising. You will be amazed at how well this works at ridding your body of the toxins of grief. Don’t forget to hydrate!