10) He’s too old for first day pictures. As a mom, it doesn’t matter how old they are, you want to commemorate all those firsts with pictures. As my youngest walks out the door for his first Freshman class, it takes everything I have not to run for the camera.
9) Paying for college books is crazy expensive. When two kids are in college, you’ll have to take out a second mortgage for books alone. Chegg.com is your lifeline to saving your retirement fund from the textbook black hole.
8) Your heart is capable of shriveling grief and swelling pride all in the same moment.
7) Letting go isn’t just a Disney song. It’s a fact of life. They have to learn to live without you.
6 ) Adjusting to the different parenting stages is just as hard as the developmental stages of childhood. With each stage, you must learn to adjust your style. Boundaries become more and more fluid until you are left with influence only. The amount of influence you will have on them as adults is directly correlated to your ability to give increased independence through the stages.
5) Every time the door slams when they are kids, you grumble. Every time the door slams when they are adults, returning home, your heart leaps for joy.
4) Staring at the dot on the “find my phone app” map doesn’t help the ache go away. You’ve been telling yourself you need to know where he is in case of the Zombie Apocalypse, but face it, he will be the one saving you from Zombies. When did he get so big?
3) There really are times when the movies get it right. Those moments when you look across the room and see the little five year old instead of the twenty year old really happen. More and more often as they drift away into their own lives.
2) If you did it right, she really doesn’t need you, anymore. And that is a good thing, no matter how it shreds your soul to know it.
1) You will always be “home.” No matter where you go or where you live, your heart will be the safe haven they come home to visit. Leave the door open. This is not the end.